If it were possible to set a DVR and record all the thoughts one thinks during the day, then sit down that evening and playback the video, I believe all would be surprised by the negativity we’d witness.
During those idle moments when our thoughts are allowed free reign to wander, the first-place attention wants to drift is toward our problems and all we perceive to be wrong in our world. By nature, humans are problem solvers. We tend to see life as a puzzle to be figured out and mastered. As such, we judge and qualify everything we see and experience into polarized categories of good or bad. Because what we interpret as good feels happy, light, and fluffy, we smile and place those positive feelings on a shelf because there is no work for us to do there. We then turn our attention to what we perceive as wrong or out of alignment because it provides us something to fix.
I believe mankind underestimates the power of thought. Whether we realize it or not, we are manifesting constantly based on the thoughts we are thinking. The mental energy we expend creates a ripple of vibration that goes outward into the universe returning back to us in material form. The reason so many of us feel our lives predominated by darkness, heavy emotions, and onerous energy is the thoughts we are thinking most of the time match that vibration.
Where attention goes, energy flows. So when we move through life looking for things to fix, the universe obliges and sends us more to fix. This is why the more we focus on perceived imperfections in ourselves and others, the more imperfections we find. The more we recognize hatred, the more hatred appears. The more we anticipate difficulty, the more difficulties we face. I look at my daughter and see a beautiful young woman. Examined through the lens of her magnified makeup mirror, she sees only blemishes, pores, and flaws which seem to grow larger and more prominent with each passing day.
The same holds true with all the other social ills and evils we witness daily. By focusing on “problems” and attempting to “fix” them, we are simply adding energy to the current situation, causing the problem to multiply, thereby perpetuating the negativity. Attempting to “solve” problems via this paradigm is like trying to extinguish a fire by dousing it with a bucket of gasoline. Though well-intentioned, it only makes everything worse.
So, what if we stopped trying to fix things? What if, rather than qualifying everything which appears in our experience as either good or bad, positive or negative, we adopted a stance of net neutrality and just accepted whatever shows up for what it is without judging, without categorizing?
Going back to the DVR concept, many of the conflicts we experience in our lives involve other people. When we think of others with whom we have the potential for conflict, we often engage in mental conversations with that person. Stop to consider the tone and flavor of those conversations. Are they happy, light, and positive, or dark, anxious, and uncomfortable? When we identify a problem in a relationship, do we not begin to visualize ourselves locked in a heated debate where we endeavor to coerce the other person into coming around to our point of view, then envision them resisting and pushing back, clinging to what we believe to be a misguided perspective? In the end, these imagined tugs-of-war almost always leave us feeling tired, worried, hopeless, angry, or disappointed.
What if instead, we played a different movie in our minds whereby we frame the situation in a positive light and see the person with whom we are conversing saying what we want to hear and reacting to us favorably in a supportive, give-and-take? Would that feel better?
Extend this thinking to the rest of life. Do we tend to focus on what’s wrong or what could go wrong at work, home, globally, etc., or do we play the movie of what we want to see and how we want things to be, and then feel the feelings those favorable experiences produce?
More and more it seems the current state of human affairs is the net result of this “problem focus” and our preponderance to judge and qualify our experiences. Shaltazar advises us to love that which you do not like. Huh? How are we supposed to love something we hate? Perhaps it comes down to accepting What Is; by being content with the food the universe heaps onto our plates whether we like how it tastes or not.
If we learned to accept and love What Is and began to live without judgement, without criticism, without condescension, what would the world look like? Might the reality we are manifesting appear lighter, brighter, and more cooperative and collaborative? Perhaps it is as simple as making the choice to embrace and accept each of our present moments without denying or resisting the energy of those moments, instead filtering all we experience through the lens of love. After all, it is Source bringing these experiences into our lives, and if Source is pure love, would not these experiences then be infused with love?
Try this experiment… the next time your mind is idle, pay attention to and take note of what you are thinking. It may help to have a pad and pen available to keep a log of your thoughts. Do this for a few days or maybe a week, then go back at the end of the week and review the log. Overall, is your mind is taking you to a happy light place, or a dark negative place? Are your internal conversations focused on what you do or do not want? Is the movie playing in your head an upbeat story or film noir? Once you become aware of what your mind is up to, you can take control, and, as Abraham says, reach for a better feeling thought. Love heals all – it creates positivity and sweeps away negativity. Love exists in each of our present moments. All we need to do is invite it in then be still enough to hear the story it’s trying to tell.
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